7 bad habits to abandon to be happy

Certain behaviors can slow you down in your route to happiness. We have listed here 7 attitudes that you should probably leave behind.

A good watchword: be able to recognize your strengths, but also your weaknesses. Calculate less to live better.

1. Abandon this need for control

Working, playing sports, seeing friends, moving with kids, being good in your body … Society imposes an ideal of life. To get there, do you tend to want to master everything and calculate? You might lose a lot of energy to want to do everything “properly”, since it is simply impossible. So learn to let go; True happiness is not to reach this ideal that has been imposed on you, it is to have the freedom to choose the life that seduces you and that resources you, by following your personal desires.

2. Abandon this need to be right

To make sure you see right, we tend to keep in your life only people who validate our beliefs. However, each idea deserves to be questioned. Accept that yours are not the best, and that you can go wrong. Stay open -minded and respect everyone’s opinions, you have things to learn from those who meet your route. What a great happiness when you grasp it!

3. Abandon criticism

A study carried out by the University of Wake Forest (North Carolina) has shown that people who criticized were in reality the most unhappy, the least satisfied and that they were more likely to be prey to depression.

What you criticize in others sometimes reflects an aspect of your personality that you do not accept or a possibly hidden desire. Learn to rejoice for others. The key to get there? Develop your self -confidence.

4. Abandon the routine

As soon as a change destabilizes your daily life, do you panic? This is normal: man is thus done, it is a natural adaptation mechanism that pushes to avoid situations that threaten his balance (babies and young children love rituals, moreover). If it is completely normal to want to keep your comfort, it is also the best way to stagnate. To move forward, learn to tame the change little by little, to face the novelty, to welcome what is not planned.

5. Abandon the past

We understand each other: your past is part of you and your experience has helped shape the person you are, do you probably have to forget it (can we only?), But the sum of your experiences does not define you, every day being a new beginning. It is here and now that you are who you are, that you can make choices and decide the path to trace. The past is immutable.

6. Abandon this need to be occupied

Between work, outings, shopping, sport, are you unable to stop? Do you feel anxiety go up as soon as you land for a few minutes on the sofa? This mania for wanting to be active often reflects a fear of emptiness, which you seek to fill in action. Perhaps you prevent yourself from thinking about what really panics you (your health, your relationships, your relationship to the world, to death …). Take the time to think about what makes you anxious, note and possibly discuss it with a health professional.

Perhaps you do not have underlying anxieties, but only the irresistible desire to do well and/or be recognized. Being in motion then gives you the impression of being in the iron and the mill and the opportunity to be admired for your achievements. Think about it too …

7. Abandon this desire to please

Your need for validation may reflect a lack of self-confidence that pushes you to claim to be the one you are not. This then forces you to make choices that satisfy your friends, family, colleagues, to the detriment of your own desires. Result: others love you for what you are not 100%. Exercise: Leave room for naturalness, then accept the criticism that the approach could arouse. The only person you need to please is you.

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